Pain is debilitating, our natural human response to pain is to escape from it, get rid of, or avoid it. The reality for many pain sufferers’ is, it is an unavoidable and part of everyday life. Learning to ‘Be With’ pain, illness and distress is a challenge.
I find managing my chronic pain is wearing and exhausting and I do go to my dark place. Quiet often, my resolve to stay alive and lead a meaningful purposeful life gets severely tested, my pain does eat away at my determination to stay strong, and my resilience to keep going diminishes.
The breakthrough in learning how to ‘Be With’ my pain came when I realised that I was inadvertently allowing my resistance to my illness the energy that it needed to gather momentum. In my desire to avoid and get rid of my pain and ‘Do’ something about it, I was getting sucked down by it.
The metaphor of unconsciously allowing energy to gather momentum has helped me change my frame of reference and shift my position. My pain is what I deal with, it does not define me.
Finding ways to dampen down the intensity of pain and functioning I believe is key. For me, being able to function means that I choose to take pain medication. The dosage I take, varies according to my levels of my pain. I know that when I am bad, I need to get help and therefore I “Get the big guns out”. I am very aware of the side effects that the medication has on my mind and body and I get reassessed regularly by my medical team.
Coping with pain, be it physical, or emotional is unique to each individual. However, similarities between both physical and emotional illnesses are significant and worth documenting. I hope that my ways of coping, is useful to anyone suffering illness and distress. My ethos in life is to be kind to others as we don’t know what they’re going through.
If you are suffering with pain and I can help in anyway then please do not hesitate to get in contact with me.